Confidence is a critical part of a positive mental attitude. Therefor, I am including another article on this subject. This one looks at confidence as a function of self acceptance.
The Secret to Real Confidence
By: Jon Mercer
Sometimes the best secrets are hidden in plain sight. When it comes to developing confidence, there is one "secret shortcut" that took me years to understand, but it's so painfully obvious that I want to kick myself sometimes for not being aware of it all along. The "secret" I want to tell to you about is acceptance.
Understanding the importance of acceptance requires a little creative thinking. It is important to remember that confidence is never an "all or nothing" situation. We all have confidence to some degree, but it is a fact that some people have much more that than others. It is also a fact, that no matter how low your self-esteem may be right now, you do have some confidence. So it's a sliding scale, and just for the sake of argument, let's say that the confidence scale goes from one to ten, with one being least confident and ten being supremely confident.
To further make this point, let's say that right now your confidence level is a three on this scale, and your friend's confidence is a six on the same scale. Now, it's obvious that your friend is twice as confident as you, but at the same time his confidence level is still only a six out of ten, so it certainly could be a lot higher and your friend is very aware of this.
Now here is where the power of acceptance comes into the picture. Imagine that your friend, whose confidence level is a six, feels very bad about himself because his confidence isn't higher. But let's say that, unlike your friend, you understand that your confidence level is low, but you feel OK about that, and you're not judging yourself because of it. In effect, you are saying "my confidence level "is what it is" and I feel perfectly comfortable with that."
Now, who is going to be perceived as being more confident, you or your friend? YOU ARE! Every single time. Because if you accept your confidence level (no matter what it is) and are perfectly comfortable with it, you are going to come across as much more confident than your friend who does not accept his confidence level. You see how this works?
Another way of saying this would be, no matter what your confidence level is, accepting it and being comfortable with it will instantly make you more confident! Are you having an "aha" moment yet? I know I did when i first began to really "get" this idea. And the irony is, this is such a simple idea. Nevertheless, I overlooked this critical point for many years. Maybe you have too...
But once you understand the importance of acceptance, you can use this knowledge to immediately boost your confidence. All you need to do is begin where you are right now and make it a point to accept your current situation and your current level of confidence. Do NOT feel frustrated with yourself or your situation. Begin with a good feeling about where you are right now at this very minute. After a day or two of thinking this way, you will definitely notice a difference. When you begin any confidence building program from the point of view of acceptance, you are certain to see greater results in less time.
But be warned, if you begin trying to make changes in your life from a position of frustration, or self disapproval, you will find it much more difficult to create the results you want. Find a way to make peace with yourself and your situation where you are right now. Remember, the key to the whole thing is to start by accepting yourself just as you are right now. You absolutely can do this, and it WILL make a difference. Every single time.
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Wednesday, July 25, 2007
The Secret to Real Confidence
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
Are You Prepared For Success? (Section II - Installment #14 "The Secret of Happiness” - Male and Female versions)
(If this is your first time on this site, please begin with "Are You Prepared For Success?" [Introduction])
If happiness is what you are looking for
There are no great mysteries for you to explore,
No oceans to swim or mountains to climb
No searching until the ends of time.
Happiness is not found in what you possess
Nor does it lie on the road to success.
Having someone to love is great, that's for sure.
But it takes more than love for happiness to endure.
To have achieved your goals is a wonderful feeling
But that in itself is not that appealing.
The victory is yours, the race is won,
But without knowing happiness, you've only begun.
Happiness can be yours, and so you will see
Just how easy attaining it really can be.
Whether your poor or whether your rich,
Young or old, it doesn't matter which.
Plain or pretty, skinny or fat,
Kind of heart or low-down rat,
Healthy or sick, educated or not
Just be grateful for what you have got.
The more gratitude that you express
The more you'll enjoy each and every success.
All you need is to have the right attitude.
Happiness is the attitude of gratitude.
- What should you be grateful for?
- Make a list and tell why you should be grateful.
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Saturday, July 14, 2007
The Law Of Attraction; My take on it
I have and will always be skeptical of anything that uses the word “secret” or “what others don’t want you to know.” The Law of Attraction is what is behind the book called “The Secret.” In my view, the basic Law of Attraction is sound, the problem is that when applying it to the attainment of wealth it is fundamentally flawed. However, applying it to wealth is the hook that draws in the people to spend their money and buy it.
In a way, it’s like a diet. There are hundreds and possibly thousands of diets out there, but for most people none of them work. The allure of weight loss, of the ease of the diet, using celebrities, appealing to our vanity, the fundamental concept of advertising is what is used to get us to spend our money on another diet that won’t work. Why won’t it work? It’s because our mindset is not there. We are looking for the easy way, the “secret,” the way with the littlest amount of work needed. If we are in the mindset that we will lose weight and do whatever it takes, then any one of the diets will work. It’s all in our heads! One of the hardest things to do is to step back from the situation and perform an objective analysis. We are too caught up in our lives to know what is best for ourselves.
When it comes to the attainment of wealth you have to be prepared. I have put together a program that will help prepare you for books like “The Secret” and I am not charging you a penny. It is all laid out in this blog “Are You Prepared for Success?” aka "The Process."
This is a complex subject and I could go on for hours, however, I just wanted to write a short essay. I elaborate more in the "The Process" and will probably write other essays with more detail.
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