Turning Negative Self Talk into Positive Self Talk

This can be viewed as a follow-on to my "Keeping Negative Energy at Bay" post. The following is a chart that takes commonly used negative words and phrases and gives you the Positive words and phrases that you should replace them with. This chart is by no means comprehensive. It is meant to be a starting place. If during your review of this chart you can think of some words and phrases that I omitted, please let me know, along with their positive opposites, and I will add them. In fact consider this, if you like, as an exercise.

Negative Words and Expressions Positive Words and Expressions Agitated Happy Alarmed Aware Ambivalence Passion Anger Forbearance Anguished Determine the cause, and act upon it Apathy Enthusiastic Apprehension Confidence, self-trust, excited At the mercy of I will take control of Awkward Adept Baffled I will understand it Bewildered Become informed Can't be trusted Integrity, trust Complain Look for a solution confused Become informed Cowardice Courage Despair Hope Desperate Hopeful Destiny, it won't happen Faith, that it will happen Disgusted Understand it...then remove it Disinterested Learn, discover, explore, interested Displeased Do what's necessary to remove the displeasure Dissatisfied Change it so that it meets with your satisfaction Distrust yourself Confidence, self-trust Disturbed Understand and/or remove the cause of the disturbance Doubt Confidence Dread Courage Envy I will turn the envy into desire and then pursue it, or let it go Evil Good Eye contact avoidance Eye contact attainment Fail, as in give up or not try Succeed by never giving up Fear, afraid Anticipation, excitement Fidgety Easy, calm Follower Leader Frightened Courageous Frown Smile Futile Make it effective, or move on Give up, not try Accomplish Give up, not try Achieve Give up, not try Flourish Give up, not try Overcome Give up, not try Prevail Give up, not try Thrive Greedy Generous Grief I will work through it and not around it Grudge I will find the source, deal with it, then let it go Guilt I will understand the source, deal with it, then let it go Hate Tolerance Helpless I will take control of my life Hesitant Certain Hindered See to it that the cause of the hindrance is removed I am a victim I am in control I am scared of change I look forward to change, it may bring new and greater opportunities. I can't do it I can do it I don't believe I believe in me I don't have the knowledge to do it I will obtain the knowledge to do it I don't know how I will find out how I feel like a loser I feel like a winner I give up I will never, ever, ever, give up - persistence I have an excuse I have no excuse, I will do better next time I have no time to do that I will make the time to do that I long for the past I look forward to the future I may fail I will succeed, maybe not this time, but next time I may fall I will always get up again I play it safe I take risks I see a problem in every opportunity I see an opportunity in every problem I was never able to do it I never wanted to do it; I never thought I could I will try to do it I will do it I'm a loser I'm a winner I'm bored I will make my own fun I'm no good I'm very good I'm not worthy I am worthy I'm scared I'm excited I'm too poor I will work with what I have to gain what I want If I could get a better job I will look for a better job If I could meet the right people I am only 7 people away from anyone on earth If I could only do it again I will do it much better next time If I could only get a break I will make my own breaks If I could only save some money I will find a way to save money If I did not have to work so hard I will work smarter or will find a different line of work If I had been born rich I will get what I need If I had only embraced past opportunities Starting now I will find new opportunities If I only had a business of my own I will start my own business and I will make it work If I only had somebody to help me I will obtain what I need If I only had the talent I will discover my talents If I only were younger My life starts now If I were educated I will go back to school If I were in better health I will work with what I have If I were not so fat I will lose weight or I will accept myself If I were not so unlucky Luck is giving up control...I will take the control back If I were only sure of myself I will change my attitude so that I can believe in myself If my past did not haunt me I will not live in the past, I will live in the present If only I had a better personality My personality is a function of my attitude...I will change my attitude If other people understood me I will understand myself so that I can understand others If others didn't keep me down (victim) No one can keep me down unless I let them If things were different I will make things different If times were better I will make the best of the time we are in Immoral Moral Impatient I will become more patient Imprisoned Freedom Inconsiderate Considerate Inconsistent Consistent Indecision Decisive, confidence, self-trust Indecisive Decisive Indifference Ambitious Insecure Secure Intimidated Emboldened Irresponsible Responsible It won't happen It will happen It's no fun I will make it fun It's too difficult If it's possible, I will do it It's too hard to do It will be easy, once I have learned how Jealous Trusting Jittery Easy, calm Lie, false, dishonest Truth, honest Look down Look ahead Loss Profit Lost I will find my way Mad Foregiving Negative mental attitude, doomed to fail Positive mental attitude, born to win Nervous Courageous On edge Calm Overwhelmed I will organize Pain I will find a way to relieve it, or I will deal with it Panicky Calm Part of the problem Part of the solution Passive Assertive Perplexed I will get clarification Procrastination Expedite Resentful I will find the source, deal with it, then let it go Restless Calm, courageous Revenge Forgiveness Satisfied with mediocrity Strives for excellence Shaky Calm Sickened I will deal with the cause, or I will remove the cause Skeptical I will do what it take to remove the doubt, or move on Strained Easy and relaxed, with confidence Succumb Surmount Superstitious I will take control of my life Swamped I will organize and set priorities Tense Calm Terrified I will understand if the source is within my control or not, then deal with it accordingly That's an obstacle that I can't get around That is a challenge to be vanquished That's not my job Let me do it for you There is no way I will find a way Thoughtless Thoughtfulness Timid Bold Tormented I will deal with the source of the torment and/or remove it from my mind Uncomfortable Comfortable Uncommitted Committed Uneasy Easy Unfair Overcome it Unfocused Focused Ungrateful I am grateful for what I have Unhappy Happy Unlucky I make my own luck Unpopular I am responsible for what I project Un-prosperous Prosperous Unreliable Reliable Un-resourceful Resourceful Unsure I am very sure of myself What would others say What would I say if I don't ... Worry Confidence, self-trust, action

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