Turning Negative Self Talk into Positive Self Talk

This can be viewed as a follow-on to my "Keeping Negative Energy at Bay" post. The following is a chart that takes commonly used negative words and phrases and gives you the Positive words and phrases that you should replace them with. This chart is by no means comprehensive. It is meant to be a starting place. If during your review of this chart you can think of some words and phrases that I omitted, please let me know, along with their positive opposites, and I will add them. In fact consider this, if you like, as an exercise.

Negative Words and Expressions Positive Words and Expressions Agitated Happy Alarmed Aware Ambivalence Passion Anger Forbearance Anguished Determine the cause, and act upon it Apathy Enthusiastic Apprehension Confidence, self-trust, excited At the mercy of I will take control of Awkward Adept Baffled I will understand it Bewildered Become informed Can't be trusted Integrity, trust Complain Look for a solution confused Become informed Cowardice Courage Despair Hope Desperate Hopeful Destiny, it won't happen Faith, that it will happen Disgusted Understand it...then remove it Disinterested Learn, discover, explore, interested Displeased Do what's necessary to remove the displeasure Dissatisfied Change it so that it meets with your satisfaction Distrust yourself Confidence, self-trust Disturbed Understand and/or remove the cause of the disturbance Doubt Confidence Dread Courage Envy I will turn the envy into desire and then pursue it, or let it go Evil Good Eye contact avoidance Eye contact attainment Fail, as in give up or not try Succeed by never giving up Fear, afraid Anticipation, excitement Fidgety Easy, calm Follower Leader Frightened Courageous Frown Smile Futile Make it effective, or move on Give up, not try Accomplish Give up, not try Achieve Give up, not try Flourish Give up, not try Overcome Give up, not try Prevail Give up, not try Thrive Greedy Generous Grief I will work through it and not around it Grudge I will find the source, deal with it, then let it go Guilt I will understand the source, deal with it, then let it go Hate Tolerance Helpless I will take control of my life Hesitant Certain Hindered See to it that the cause of the hindrance is removed I am a victim I am in control I am scared of change I look forward to change, it may bring new and greater opportunities. I can't do it I can do it I don't believe I believe in me I don't have the knowledge to do it I will obtain the knowledge to do it I don't know how I will find out how I feel like a loser I feel like a winner I give up I will never, ever, ever, give up - persistence I have an excuse I have no excuse, I will do better next time I have no time to do that I will make the time to do that I long for the past I look forward to the future I may fail I will succeed, maybe not this time, but next time I may fall I will always get up again I play it safe I take risks I see a problem in every opportunity I see an opportunity in every problem I was never able to do it I never wanted to do it; I never thought I could I will try to do it I will do it I'm a loser I'm a winner I'm bored I will make my own fun I'm no good I'm very good I'm not worthy I am worthy I'm scared I'm excited I'm too poor I will work with what I have to gain what I want If I could get a better job I will look for a better job If I could meet the right people I am only 7 people away from anyone on earth If I could only do it again I will do it much better next time If I could only get a break I will make my own breaks If I could only save some money I will find a way to save money If I did not have to work so hard I will work smarter or will find a different line of work If I had been born rich I will get what I need If I had only embraced past opportunities Starting now I will find new opportunities If I only had a business of my own I will start my own business and I will make it work If I only had somebody to help me I will obtain what I need If I only had the talent I will discover my talents If I only were younger My life starts now If I were educated I will go back to school If I were in better health I will work with what I have If I were not so fat I will lose weight or I will accept myself If I were not so unlucky Luck is giving up control...I will take the control back If I were only sure of myself I will change my attitude so that I can believe in myself If my past did not haunt me I will not live in the past, I will live in the present If only I had a better personality My personality is a function of my attitude...I will change my attitude If other people understood me I will understand myself so that I can understand others If others didn't keep me down (victim) No one can keep me down unless I let them If things were different I will make things different If times were better I will make the best of the time we are in Immoral Moral Impatient I will become more patient Imprisoned Freedom Inconsiderate Considerate Inconsistent Consistent Indecision Decisive, confidence, self-trust Indecisive Decisive Indifference Ambitious Insecure Secure Intimidated Emboldened Irresponsible Responsible It won't happen It will happen It's no fun I will make it fun It's too difficult If it's possible, I will do it It's too hard to do It will be easy, once I have learned how Jealous Trusting Jittery Easy, calm Lie, false, dishonest Truth, honest Look down Look ahead Loss Profit Lost I will find my way Mad Foregiving Negative mental attitude, doomed to fail Positive mental attitude, born to win Nervous Courageous On edge Calm Overwhelmed I will organize Pain I will find a way to relieve it, or I will deal with it Panicky Calm Part of the problem Part of the solution Passive Assertive Perplexed I will get clarification Procrastination Expedite Resentful I will find the source, deal with it, then let it go Restless Calm, courageous Revenge Forgiveness Satisfied with mediocrity Strives for excellence Shaky Calm Sickened I will deal with the cause, or I will remove the cause Skeptical I will do what it take to remove the doubt, or move on Strained Easy and relaxed, with confidence Succumb Surmount Superstitious I will take control of my life Swamped I will organize and set priorities Tense Calm Terrified I will understand if the source is within my control or not, then deal with it accordingly That's an obstacle that I can't get around That is a challenge to be vanquished That's not my job Let me do it for you There is no way I will find a way Thoughtless Thoughtfulness Timid Bold Tormented I will deal with the source of the torment and/or remove it from my mind Uncomfortable Comfortable Uncommitted Committed Uneasy Easy Unfair Overcome it Unfocused Focused Ungrateful I am grateful for what I have Unhappy Happy Unlucky I make my own luck Unpopular I am responsible for what I project Un-prosperous Prosperous Unreliable Reliable Un-resourceful Resourceful Unsure I am very sure of myself What would others say What would I say if I don't ... Worry Confidence, self-trust, action

By Mel Kaye Copyright © MondayMorningPower, All rights Reserved

Keeping Negative Energy at Bay

Our lives today are constantly bombarded with negative material and messages from the media, on the evening news, newspaper headlines, radio stories, to angry co-workers and more. It is difficult to go through a day without being faced with world, national or personal disasters. No matter whom we are, where we go or our intentions, it is difficult to avoid all of the negative sources of information.

Our mind is completely undiscerning when it comes to the information we give it. That is, it takes all the information, whether positive OR negative, and uses it as a resource from which to make decisions. In a sense we are unwittingly programming our mind with negativity.

We all face the constant danger, over time, that these negative messages become our own negative thoughts and often we do not even realize it.

We go throughout the day with other people’s negative thoughts and outside events influencing our own thinking. These negative thoughts soon become our reality and our life is seemingly filled with negative thoughts, energy and behaviors.

The way to combat this negative energy is to be aware of its existence and to take responsibility for our own actions and our own lives - by controlling the messages we receive. We must reverse the negative programming. (By the way, I have developed a process that addressees this subject “Are You Prepared For Success?” This process is completely laid out for you on this site.)

The solution is in taking control of our own destiny and controlling the type of messages that our mind receives. We must purposefully place positive, motivating, inspiring messages in both, our subconscious and conscious mind. This site “MondayMorningPower” is strewn with motivational quotes, empowering poems, essays and articles and positive energy. Let’s not forget a heaping dose of humor. Read the quotes; read the poems; read the essays; engross yourself in positive energy.

The result will be a more positive, pleasant, happy output with less stress and more productivity. As an individual, your thoughts become more positive. You become in charge of your life and its destiny. Your life becomes more empowered and powerful in expression.

In order to effect change in our lives, whether it is just a commitment to be a little more positive in our outlook or to make a radical change in the way we look at life, we must OWN the process. (I must clearly state that I am not leading you towards the purchase of anything. Everything that I talk about, including the “Process”, is laid out on this site.)

Both in my “Process” and in my essays I talk about ownership of these positive messages by the use of PASSION, PLEASURE & REPETITION, or as I call it the “Empowerment Triad.” When reading the quotes, or the poems, or the essays, speak it out loud; say it with Passion; feel the Pleasure of knowing that a change is imminent; and Repeat them often. What I do is to take a quote that has particular significance for me and repeat it out loud about 10 times in the morning before I start my day. It becomes totally energizing.

An added benefit of looking through motivational quotes is that you end up internalize by simply looking through the quotes in order to find the one that has the most meaning for you that day.

Can you imagine the impact it would have if everyone around you were positively motivated first thing in the morning? Take responsibility for your life and the reality you create by doing something positive for YOU! Take care of yourself first and many of life’s struggles will take care of themselves.

As I have dedicated this site to the “Pursuit, Capture, Care and Feeding of a Positive Mental Attitude,” you should dedicate your life to the “Pursuit, Capture, Care and Feeding of a Positive Mental Attitude.” You will be surprised at how the rest of your life seems to just fall into place.

By Mel Kaye

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Are You Prepared For Success? (Section II - Installment #3 "The Rain Will Fall" - Male and Female)

(If this is your first time on this site, please begin with "Are You Prepared For Success?" [Introduction])

The Rain Will Fall

A soft wet mist engulfs the city

As a blue sky fades into a sad shade of gray.

A dark and dreary rain descends

As the sun successfully hides from the day.

The wind howls like a wounded beast

As it swoops down with its twists and its swirls

Leading dead leaves in a frantic dance

And so another day unfurls.

The cold clammy fingers of the day overcomes you

As your happy dreams sadly fade away.

Your life seems so very dark and dreary

As you hopelessly try to hide from the day.

Your thoughts reach out for a shapeless past

As you retrace your life's twists and turns

In your frantic search to find yourself

Your day begins and your heart still yearns.

Be still, take heart, reflect a while.

For soon this will pass and then you will know

That behind that tragic mask you wear,

As behind the wind, the cold and the snow

That the sun still shines and the birds still sing.

For this sadness you feel befalls us all.

No one, as yet has lived untouched,

Because into each life some rain must fall.

Original poem by Mel Kaye

I strongly suggest that you write down your immediate reaction, after passionately reading this poem.

• What causes you to feel blue? What from your past? What currently?

By Mel Kaye
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Go to Section II (Installment #4)

Men Have Better Friends

Friendship Between Women:

A woman didn't come home one night. The next day she told her husband that she had slept over at a friend's house. The man called his wife's 10 best friends. None of them knew about it.


Friendship Between Men:

A man didn't come home one night. The next day he told his wife that he had slept over at a friend's house. The woman called her husband's 10 best friends. Eight of them confirmed that he had slept over, and two claimed that he was still there.

American Idol: Jordin Sparks

American Idol: Jordin Sparks, Blake Lewis, Melinda Doolittle, Phil Stacey and many other past Idol successes are examples of people who were not afraid to take a risk. For these the payoff was huge, especially Jordin Sparks. Yes, they had to have talent, but what was it that really drove them to succeed, to audition in the first place? They had to have the right ATTITUDE. There’s that word again…..attitude. No matter how much talent you have, no matter how smart you are, no matter how much ________________ you have, without a positive mental attitude, the “never give up” attitude, the “never, never, never quit” attitude, would any of us even know their names today. I’m not saying that fame is your, or should be your definition of success. Everyone has, or will have, something that they want to accomplish, something that they want so bad that they can taste it, their own definition of success.

The American Idol scenario can be played out on the sports field, in the movie studios, in the operating room, in the courthouse…..anywhere where people live free. What about people who aren’t free; what would they give to be free…..well that’s a whole other essay, isn’t it and just a little off track…..just a little.

Attitude is the bases for every meaningful endeavor we begin. Attitude will also determine if we succeed at it or fail. Attitude is the ultimate power. Isn't that the name of this site?

There is no failure except in no longer trying.
Elbert Hubbard

The common denominator of success --- the secret of success of every man who has ever been successful --- lies in the fact that he formed the habit of doing things that failures don't like to do.
Albert Gray

The fastest way to succeed is to double your failure rate.
Thomas J. Watson, Founder of IBM

Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Thomas Edison

Do it trembling if you must, but do it!

Emmet Fox

Are You Prepared For Success? (Section II - Installment #2 "Bargain With Life" - Female)

(If this is your first time on this site, please begin with "Are You Prepared For Success?" [Introduction])

If you bargain with Life for a penny,

Then Life would pay no more,

However you begged at evening

When you counted your scanty store.

For Life is just an employer,

He gives you what you ask,

But once you have set the wages,

Why, you must bear the task.

If you worked for a menial's hire,

Only to learn, dismayed,

That any wage you'd have had asked of Life,

Life would have willingly paid.

(Based on a poem of unknown authorship)

I strongly suggest that you write down your immediate reaction, after passionately reading this poem.

• In what ways have you settled and in what ways have you reached for the stars?

By Mel Kaye
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Go to Section II (Installment #3)

Are You Prepared For Success? (Section II - Installment #2 "Bargain With Life" - Male)

(If this is your first time on this site, please begin with "Are You Prepared For Success?" [Introduction])

If you bargain with Life for a penny,

Then Life would pay no more,

However you begged at evening

When you counted your scanty store.

For Life is just an employer,

He gives you what you ask,

But once you have set the wages,

Why, you must bear the task.

If you worked for a menial's hire,

Only to learn, dismayed,

That any wage you'd have had asked of Life,

Life would have willingly paid.

(Based on a poem of unknown authorship)

I strongly suggest that you write down your immediate reaction, after passionately reading this poem.

• In what ways have you settled and in what ways have you reached for the stars?

By Mel Kaye
Copyright © MondayMorningPower, All rights Reserved

Go to Section II (Installment #3)

Nine Words Women Use

1. Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

4. Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

5. Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)

6. That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

7. Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question or faint. Just say you're welcome.

8. Whatever: Is a women's way of saying SCREW YOU, BOZO!

9. Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "What's wrong?" For the woman's response refer to #3.

Send this to the men you know, to warn them about arguments they can avoid if they remember this terminology.

Send this to the women you know to give them a good laugh, cause they know it's true.

General Comment Page

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Motivational Quotes (6)

MURPHY'S LAWS OF COMBAT
7. Professionals are predictable, it's the amateurs that are dangerous.

How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.
Anne Frank

Never for the sake of peace and quiet deny your convictions.
Dag Hammarskjold

The tragedy of life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach.
Benjamin Mays

Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much.
Helen Keller

Who you are speaks so loudly, I can hardly hear what you are saying.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

No one is less ready for tomorrow than the person who holds the most rigid beliefs about what tomorrow will contain.
The Visionary's Handbook

Be glad of life because it gives you the chance to love and to work and to play and to look up at the stars.
Henry Van Dyke

Victory belongs to the most persevering.
Napoleon Bonaparte

You can't expect to win unless you know why you lose.
Benjamin Lipson

When you get right down to the root of the meaning of the word "succeed," you find that it simply means to follow through.
F.W. Nichol

Renewal is the principle and the process that empowers us to move on an upward spiral of growth and change, of continuous improvement.
Stephen Covey

The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.
William James

Few will have the greatness to bend history itself; but each of us can work to change a small portion of events, and in the total of all those acts will be written the history of this generation.
Robert F. Kennedy

Talking to customers tends to counteract the most self-destructive habit of great corporations, that of talking to themselves.
John Brooks, author

Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency.
Maya Angelou

Perhaps once in a hundred years a person may be ruined by excessive praise, but surely once every minute someone dies inside for lack of it.
Cecil G. Osborne

Quality is never an accident; it is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, intelligent direction and skillful execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives.
William A. Foster

Live neither in the past nor in the future, but let each day's work absorb your entire energies, and satisfy your widest ambition.
Sir William Osler

Our imagination is the only limit to what we can hope to have in the future.
Charles F. Kettering

The way a team plays as a whole determines its success. You may have the greatest bunch of individual stars in the world, but if they don't play together, the club won't be worth a dime.
Babe Ruth

Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.
Albert Einstein

Life is not always what one wants it to be, but to make the best of it, as it is, is the only way of being happy.
Jennie Jerome Churchill, mother of Sir Winston Churchill

Indecision is the seedling of fear.
Napoleon Hill, author

Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one's own sunshine.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.
Napolean Hill

The sun's always shining, even when you can't see it.
Anonymous

Change your thoughts, and you change your world.
Norman Vincent Peale

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.
Albert Schweitzer

See Motivational Quote Index for more quotes.

Are You Prepared For Success? (Side Note - 1)

Just a quick side note on my "Are You Prepared For Success?" series..... (Series Index)

As I have been scouring the Internet for similar articles and sites that cover this subject, I have found that inevitably they take you down a path and at the end of that path, in order to complete their process, or fulfill their promise, you have to buy something: a book, a CD, a spot in a seminar.....something. With mine, there is nothing to buy in order to complete the process. I will lay it all out for you. In addition, I have found nothing that addresses the preparation for success to the depths that I do.

Also, you may have noticed that I have no adds on my site. Luring you to my site in order to sell you things that I don't endorse or even use is not my purpose. I have discovered a process that works and I want to share it! That is not to say that I might not figure out some way to make some money on this later on. However, this entire process will be posted on this site.

Misc. - Index

• 5 Things You Never Thought Your Cell Phone Could Do
  
• A Movie Review?
• General Comments Page
• Gratitude Dance
• "Everything is Illuminated" - Another Movie Review
• Helpful Hints
• How Does a Bear Cross a Bridge?
  
• Life
  
• Military Funeral
  
• My Blog Rating
• New Year's Wish
  
• Now That's a Sheriff
• One Last "Happy New Year" Post
  
• Patriotism & Denzel Washington
• Pet Peeve
• Pet Peeve, Part 2
• Pictures to Make You Smile
  
• Pursue Your Passion
• Self CPR
• So You Think You Know Everything?
  
• Technorati's Top 10,000
• The Amazing Vicks Vaporub
  
• The Little Things
  
• The Meaning Of Freedom
• The other side of the story
  
• Web Site Recommendation
  
• You Might Be a True American If
  

Are You Prepared For Success? (Section II - Installment #1 "It's Not Your Fault" - Female)

(If this is your first time on this site, please begin with "Are You Prepared For Success?" [Introduction])

It's Not Your Fault

It's not your fault, we hear you say,

The reason you're the person you are today.

It's not your fault, you've been abused.

It's not your fault, you're so confused.

The government's taking away your rights.

Worrying about hate groups keeps you up nights.

And those gangs roaming the streets, it's such a crime.

Your kids demand too much of your time.

There is no time for you.

Oh, dear heaven, what will you do?

It's not your fault, as you sing the blues.

Watching mayhem and murder on the nightly news.

The use of drugs, is that the cause,

Of the way you think and all your flaws?

There the ones. Japan's to blame.

You were doing just fine until the recession came.

You lost your job, you feel so blue,

If your parents had only named you Sue.

Space aliens have controlled your brain.

You can't do it today. It's going to rain.

The radical left and the radical right;

They are the reason you don't have the fight.

Go back to school? But, your far too old.

Why did they leave you out in the cold?

You're in a dead-end job and you can't get out.

"No one will help you," you just want to shout.

Who will give you the things that you need?

Will anyone show you the way to succeed?

Why can't you be a super star?

Why can't you travel, both near and far?

Off to see distant lands;

It's impossible, it's not in you're plans.

You're lost in a world that doesn't care,

Wondering why does life have to be so unfair?

The fear of failure won't let you succeed,

So you'll follow anyone willing to lead.

You feel shackled, imprisoned, condemned;

In desperate need of a savior or friend.

But, it's not your fault, you have to say;

That you can't deal with the way things are today.

..Is this how you feel, with no control?

Being a victim can sure take its toll.

Feeling so drained at the end of the day.

Did you know...it doesn't have to be this way.

What a nice feeling it would be

To actually take responsibility;

Not for what happens to you, but the fact

That you can control the way you react.

You must look at things differently, though;

And know the limits of what you control.

Understand that no one controls how you feel.

Only you can determine what's false and what's real.

Original Poem by Mel Kaye

I strongly suggest that you write down your immediate reaction, after passionately reading this poem.

• Do you understand what the poem is saying to you and can you put it into your own words?

• List examples in your own life.

• Do you welcome the message as a truth that you can accept?

• List the different ways that you feel like a victim.

• How does feeling like a victim make you feel?

By Mel Kaye
Copyright © MondayMorningPower, All rights Reserved

Go to Section II - Installment #1 - Female

Are You Prepared For Success? (Section II - Installment #1 "It's Not Your Fault" - Male)

(If this is your first time on this site, please begin with "Are You Prepared For Success?" [Introduction])

It's Not Your Fault

It's not your fault, we hear you say,

The reason you're the person you are today.

It's not your fault, you've been abused.

It's not your fault, you're so confused.

The government's taking away your rights.

Worrying about hate groups keeps you up nights.

And those gangs roaming the streets, it's such a crime.

Your kids demand too much of your time.

There is no time for you.

Oh, dear heaven, what will you do?

It's not your fault, as you sing the blues.

Watching mayhem and murder on the nightly news.

The use of drugs, is that the cause,

Of the way you think and all your flaws?

There the ones. Japan's to blame.

You were doing just fine until the recession came.

They closed down the factory. You lost your job.

If your parents had only named you Bob.

Space aliens have controlled your brain.

You can't do it today. It's going to rain.

The radical left and the radical right;

They are the reason you don't have the fight.

Go back to school? But, your far too old.

Why did they leave you out in the cold?

You're in a dead-end job and you can't get out.

"No one will help you," you just want to shout.

Who will give you the things that you need?

Will anyone show you the way to succeed?

Why can't you be a super star?

Why can't you travel, both near and far?

Off to see distant lands;

It's impossible, it's not in you're plans.

You're lost in a world that doesn't care,

Wondering why does life have to be so unfair?

The fear of failure won't let you succeed,

So you'll follow anyone willing to lead.

You feel shackled, imprisoned, condemned;

In desperate need of a savior or friend.

But, it's not your fault, you have to say;

That you can't deal with the way things are today.

...Is this how you feel, with no control?

Being a victim can sure take its toll.

Feeling so drained at the end of the day.

Did you know...it doesn't have to be this way.

What a nice feeling it would be

To actually take responsibility;

Not for what happens to you, but the fact

That you can control the way you react.

You must look at things differently, though;

And know the limits of what you control.

Understand that no one controls how you feel.

Only you can determine what's false and what's real.

Original Poem by Mel Kaye

I strongly suggest that you write down your immediate reaction, after passionately reading this poem.

• Do you understand what the poem is saying to you and can you put it into your own words?

• List examples in your own life.

• Do you welcome the message as a truth that you can accept?

• List the different ways that you feel like a victim.

• How does feeling like a victim make you feel?

By Mel Kaye
Copyright © MondayMorningPower, All rights Reserved

Go to Section II - Installment #2 - Male

Are You Prepared For Success? (Introduction into Section II)

(If this is your first time on this site, please begin with "Are You Prepared For Success?" [Introduction])

In "Section II" I strongly suggest that you express how the poems make you feel. You may want to use the following list for ideas on what to write:

• Write down your immediate reaction, after passionately reading each poem.

• Do you understand what the poem is saying to you and can you put it into your own words?

• List examples in your own life.

• Do you welcome the message as a truth that you can accept?

• Can you identify negative attitudes that you would like to replace?

You can use the “Comments” section at the end of each post to write your feelings. You can identify yourself or you can remain anonymous. By doing it this way you may also help others. That decision is completely up to you.

Be sure to use the "Empowerment Triad" of PASSION, PLEASURE & REPETITION whenever you read the poems. This is what will drive the messages into your mind and help facilitate the desired changes.

Remember, you have to be an active participant. Your active involvement is critical to the change process. You will find this process to be cleansing as you prepare for success.

I must again emphasize that you use the appropriate version (male or female.) I will post each one in a separate post and label each one as Male or Female.

By Mel Kaye
Copyright © MondayMorningPower, All rights Reserved

Go to Section II - Installment #1 - Male
Go to Section II - Installment #1 - Female

Power

I use the word “power” a great deal in my writings. In fact, the first mention is at the beginning of my site “Attitude, the Ultimate Power” and in almost every essay that I write.

Apparently, this has caused some consternation with my readers. The following comes directly from a comment placed on one of my posts by Ramana (Rambodoc at large.)

“What is real power? Except for people who deal with issues that affect the lives of nations or entire planets, the most important achievement for an individual is to define the limits of his power. How important is it to be powerful? I think it is important only to the extent you can control your own life, not the lives or outcome of others. I say this because regardless of how inflated an opinion of self each of us may have, think of one thing: "If I die tomorrow, what happens?" The answer is humbling: exactly NOTHING! The world goes on with sublime disregard. So, how are we important? We are, but to our own lives. Once we lose the need to impress others with our power and influence, we will focus on self, and that is ALL that is needed to be successful and happy."

What Ramana is saying is very close to how I view “power”, but obviously, I was not very clear as to my meaning. In fact, I was not clear at all. For that I apologize.

This got me thinking, and as I told Ramana, that can really hurt. The way that I use the term “Power” is not necessarily the same way that others may use this term. My concept (definition) of “power” is inwardly directed, not outwardly directed.

The three major definitions of "power" are:

1. Authority
2. Strength
3. Ability
   

In my writings “power” is best suited to the "ability" definition. So, in my description of "power" try substituting the word "ability."

The power that one has over his/her own life; the power not to give control of your happiness over to others; the power to control your own destiny; the power to NEVER take on the role of a victim, and the power to succeed in life. At no time in any of my essays or anything that I write or infer do I use the word power as influence over anyone other than yourself. This is absolute and unwavering in the whole concept of my blog.

He is most powerful who has power over himself.

Philip Massinger

By Mel Kaye

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